Today’s podcast is for you if you have been experiencing some intensity lately, either in your personal life or professional life or both. I’m gonna warn you right now, the content is advanced. This is for women who have been doing their work and want to breakthrough into a life of thriving.
These are epic times we are living in right now, and whether or not you listen to the news, we are all being affected. But I promise you, Radiant Woman, we were built for this. There is a huge opportunity for us in these epic times, to rise up and claim our sovereignty as women. All that means is owning our wholeness. When we do that, everyone benefits. We have been living in survival mode for far too long, it’s time for us to join together and thrive. You have everything you need inside of you to transcend whatever you are going through right now. Whatever you are going through right now is your opportunity for transformation. It’s all here for you, even the stuff that is challenging you the most.
Before I get into this, I want to let you know that on Sept. 6, 7th and 8th, I have a free 3-day virtual retreat coming up called the Heroine’s Journey, which is the Feminine path of reclaiming our wholeness and stepping into our sovereignty. The journey from fear to love; from feeling a victim of your life to feeling empowered; from surviving to thriving.
In this 3-day event, I will walk you through an amazing process of realizing your soul’s desire. Day one, I will guide you through a visioning process to access what you truly want. Day two, you will meet and gently dissolve your resistance. Day three, I will guide you through a powerful process of embodying who you came here to be. If you want to sign up, visit my website: radiantwomanyou.com and click on the tab The Heroine’s journey to claim your spot. This is going to be a beautiful and life-transforming experience. I am limiting the number of participants to keep it intimate. So if you are interested, go claim your spot.
So here is what I want you to know, on the deepest level. That you don’t have to prove your worth, you were born worthy. You don’t need permission to take up space, you belong here. You don’t need to wait for your turn, you get to be first. The love you seek lives inside of you. You are already safe and you are already whole. This is a journey of remembering and reclaiming these essential truths. Tapping into your feminine gifts will allow you to fully embrace all of this for yourself.
One of these sacred feminine gifts is the transformative power of our emotions. In this episode, I am going to show you how you can use your emotions as medicine to step into deeper levels of clarity and confidence in all areas of your life: in your relationships, in your work, and in your play. This medicine lives inside us for a reason and it’s time we remember how to use it. I’m going to break it down to a simplified version of the transformational process I guide all my clients through; The Heroine’s Journey. Our emotions have the power to transform our lives when we learn how to navigate through them in a healthy way. I am going to talk about healthy ways to navigate through challenging emotions like grief, anger, jealousy and fear as pathways to empowerment. This is something you might have to trust me on because the cognitive mind cannot fully grasp the experience of transformation because it requires transcending your ego. You really have to experience this process for yourself to really understand it. The most common result is that you come out the other side with a new level of clarity and confidence that you didn’t have access to before. This clarity and confidence is what we need to give ourselves permission to take up space, put our own needs first, and ask for what we need. As women, we have been shamed for having emotions. We have been shut down for being passionate. We’ve learned that if we show emotion, we won’t be taken seriously. So most of us caught on really early that if we want to be loved, accepted and acknowledged, we need to be good girls and stuff our emotions.
Emotion is energy in motion. Emotions are not meant to be stored or held inside the body. They are meant to move. In fact, various studies in the field of psychology have demonstrated how pent up emotions lead to mental and physical health issues. Chinese medicine as well, traces all internal illness, physical and mental, back to emotional imbalance. Based on this research and ancient wisdom, it makes sense why it would be unhealthy to keep yourself from fully feeling whatever you feel. You don’t actually need science to tell you this, you know it. You feel it.
So how do you move emotion? Well, basically by fully expressing your feelings. The key is to find a healthy and clear process for expressing your emotions. When you move into this process consciously, you get to experience a rebirth where you come out of it feeling empowered with a deeper sense of clarity and compassion for yourself and all involved. An unconscious process is when you let your emotions drive your behavior. We all know when you act from an emotionally charged place, it only leads to more suffering and a whole lot of mess to clean up. Like responding to the email that triggered you, the knee jerk reaction fueled by anger is never going to lead to a positive outcome, and more than likely, you will regret it. The key is to navigate through the emotion to get to the root of why you were triggered in the first place so you can address that piece first. Typically, there is an unmet need that is trying to get your attention, and the cry is typically coming from a much younger aspect of yourself that is buried in your subconscious mind. So the underlying need isn’t going to be found in the complex story of whatever you are going through. Whatever is frustrating you in your life, is poking at a very basic need that is not being met, so your emotion is a deep cry for help, and you are the only one who can truly answer that call.
When you are caught up in a difficult emotion, you are feeling a victim of some experience. And when you are feeling a victim, the instinct is to want to attack. That’s just not going to go well. You’re going to have the greatest possible outcome when you are feeling centered and clear. It’s only from this place of empowerment where you can listen and share your truth from your heart. This level of empowerment is what the world needs and it all starts with each one of us showing up to do the work on ourselves first. As I mentioned, I would like to share a simplified version of the emotional empowerment work I do with my clients to embrace greater levels of confidence and clarity so they can transform their lives.
Special note: If you don’t feel like you have the capacity to move through a process like this safely, you may need a professional, like myself, to support you through a deeper process. For instance, if you feel like the emotion is too big to face on your own. If you know it’s triggering something that feels too raw to look at or even to share with your closest friend, listen to that. I encourage you to pursue getting the support you need to hold a safe container for you to move through your process.
Okay, so here is the simple process I want to share. Pay attention to the subtleties. Before you begin, set an intention to release the emotional charge and to receive whatever wisdom your emotion has for you. You can call on your guides, your guardian angels, your higher self, your ancestors, whatever support feels right for you. If you have a friend who you trust to just witness your process, invite that friend to hold that sacred space for you. You just need to make it clear that your friend is here to bear witness to your process, not to comment, judge, or fix anything. Make sense? Their only job is to encourage your emotional release. You also want to make sure you feel safe in the space you are in. Make sure you are in a place where you have privacy and you will not be disturbed. This process requires your full attention so be sure to shut out all distractions including your phone or any other devices that may interfere. Next find a place in your body where you feel resourced and calm. Maybe it’s in your heart or your belly or somewhere else. Take a few moments to breathe into that area and establish this area as your safe space, knowing that at any point in this process you can return to this place of safety and calm.
This practice is called an emotional purge. The idea is to get out of the story as much as possible so you can get in touch with the raw emotion. I know it’s not easy, but do your best to separate yourself from the story of what is causing the emotion and find where in your body you feel the emotion the strongest. Maybe it is in your stomach or your chest or your throat. Wherever you feel it, turn all your attention to that part of your body and begin to express the emotion. Allow yourself to become the consciousness of the raw emotion itself and allow it to say whatever it needs to say. It’s important here to get out of your head. Breathe into the emotion and speak from that place.
You will know you are there if the expression is free of the story. Things can come out that you would never ever say to anyone out loud. Just let it out. The words may not make any logical sense. Perfect. It may just be a bunch of curse words followed by tears. Wonderful. Let it flow. The words may sound like a child having a temper tantrum. Fabulous! Now you are really getting somewhere. You may feel like just crying and even bawling like a baby. Wonderful. Let it out. You may feel like kicking or beating some pillows, you make feel like shaking or moaning or yelling. Welcome it. Give yourself full permission to let it all out. Until there is nothing left. It’s called an emotional purge because it’s literally releasing something that needs to be released. And just like throwing up, you know when you are done. Once you feel complete, it’s time to self soothe. So get in touch with that resourced place of calm by breathing into it. From that place of calm, listen for the underlying basic need that was being expressed. I’ll give you a hint, it’s going to be something very basic: like the need for love, acceptance, acknowledgement, safety or belonging. Once you know what it is that you need on this deep level, offer it to yourself by repeating over and over again what you most need to know. I am safe. I am loved. I acknowledge myself. And mean it.
Yes this is deep work. It is the journey from victim to empowerment. From fear to love. It is the heroine’s journey back to wholeness. And from this place of wholeness, you get to embody the Radiant Woman that you are. It’s revolutionary and it’s available for you every single day. So next time you feel triggered, I invite you to take yourself through the loving process if it feels accessible. If you miss an opportunity, no worries, there will be another one showing up for you soon enough. It’s all here for your expansion.
Peace and Blessings